Guest speaker – Dan Southerland, pastor from West Side Family Church
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Remaining: Opponets, Work, Sacred
Today’s word: Work
Parenting is hard work. Three groups, 1. Parents with kids at home. 2. Parents whose children have left the house. (Parenting doesn’t end when the kids leave the house.) 3. Don’t have kids, may not know if they even will have kids. (Most people will have kids, so it’s wise to listen. )
Good parents are made not born. It’s a twenty (thirty?) year building project.
- Raising kids: not enough
- Raising adults: closer
- Raising parents: getting there
- Raising disciples: bingo!
Four ways to work smart as a parent
1. Know your kids.
Learning doesn’t begin where the teacher is, it begins where the student is.
Parenting doesn’t begin where the parent is, it begins where the child is.
We often parent based on how we were parented. Parenting should be based on each child, instead, and may change with each child. We work with the child based on the age of a child and their learning style.
Some children learn from wisdom: learning from the experience of others. They can watch what others do and make wise choices from there.
Some children learn from consequences. Watching someone touch a hot stove means they want to touch it too.
2. Get outside help.
Great players known the value old of coaching. If you could solve all your kids problems, it’d be already fixed. Grandparents, successful parents, truth telling friends, spiritual mentors – all make great coaches.
3. Stay humble not haughty.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself; humility is thinking of yourself less. In our culture, we have many idols, one being that we .ake an idol of our kids. We want to use our kids to compensate for own our failures or to make us look like awesome parents. Stay humble and admit when you don’t know something and keep your perspective on Christ.
4. Broadcast your love.
Make sure your kids know that there is nothing they can do to lose your love. Never use withdrawing your love or your presence as a form of punishment.
Your kids are going to become who you are. You need to become the kind of person that you want to your kids to be. Work at becoming that person. One of the best gifts you can give your kids is who you become.